Buying your first male masturbator is exciting—but it's also normal to have a few questions once you take it out of the box.
Many first-time users wonder:

• How do I use it correctly?
• Why doesn't it feel the way I expected?
• Am I missing something?

The truth is, using a male masturbator isn't difficult, but it can feel different from what you're used to. Like any new product, there's a short learning curve before you discover what works best for your body.
A few simple adjustments—like choosing the right amount of lubricant, starting with a lower intensity, or finding a comfortable angle—can make a much bigger difference than most people expect.
Whether you've chosen a manual sleeve or an automatic male masturbator, this guide will walk you through everything you need to know, from choosing the right model to using it comfortably and keeping it clean afterward.
By the end, you'll feel more confident and be ready to enjoy a smoother, more comfortable experience every time.  

 

Part 1: Choosing the Right Male Masturbator

Choosing the right male masturbator is the first step toward a better experience. With so many different styles available, it's easy to feel overwhelmed if you're buying one for the first time.
The good news is that you don't need the most advanced model to get started. Understanding the basic differences between each type makes it much easier to find one that fits your preferences. 

Manual Male Masturbators

Manual male masturbators, sometimes called male strokers, create stimulation through your own hand movements. The internal textures work together with your grip, speed, and rhythm, giving you full control over the experience.
They're simple to use, easy to clean, and often a great choice for beginners who want to explore different sensations at their own pace.  

Automatic Male Masturbators

An automatic male masturbator uses built-in motors to create stimulation that would be difficult to achieve by hand alone.Depending on the model, you may find features such as: 

• Suction for rhythmic pressure
• Thrusting for in-and-out movement
• Rotation for twisting stimulation
• Vibration to target sensitive areas
• Heating to add gentle warmth

You don't need to use every feature during your first session. In fact, most people have a better experience by starting with the basic settings and gradually exploring different modes over time.  

 

Disposable Male Masturbators

Disposable models are compact, lightweight, and designed for convenience.
They're a good option if you're traveling, trying a male masturbator for the first time, or simply prefer something that doesn't require long-term storage.
Many disposable sleeves already contain lubricant or only require a small amount of water before use, making setup quick and easy.  

Start Simple if You're New

If this is your first automatic male masturbator, it's tempting to try every function right away.
However, starting with a simpler model—or simply using the lower settings first—usually leads to a better experience.
Giving yourself time to become familiar with the sensations helps your body adjust naturally, making it easier to discover the settings and rhythms you enjoy most.
There's no need to rush. The goal isn't to use every feature on day one—it's to find what feels comfortable for you.  

Choosing the Right Size

Besides functions, size also plays an important role in comfort.
A sleeve that's too tight may feel uncomfortable, while one that's too loose may reduce stimulation. Choosing a model that matches your body helps create a more natural and enjoyable fit.  

How to Measure Penis Length

For the most accurate measurement:

• Stand upright in a relaxed position.
• Wait until you have a full erection.
• Hold your penis parallel to the floor.
• Place a ruler against the pubic bone at the base of your penis.
• Measure from the pubic bone to the tip.

For more consistent results, avoid measuring immediately after exercise, a hot shower, or when you're feeling cold or tense, as these can temporarily affect your size.

If you'd like a more detailed walkthrough, check out our guide:

《How to Measure Penis Size for the Right Male Masturbator: A Simple Step-by-Step Guide》

 

Before Moving On...

Once you've chosen a male masturbator that suits your needs, the next step is learning how it works.
Even if you've used other products before, every automatic male masturbator has its own buttons, functions, and settings. Spending a few minutes getting familiar with them before your first session can make the experience much smoother.  

Part 2: Getting to Know Your Automatic Male Masturbator

Every automatic male masturbator works a little differently. While most models share similar features, the button layout, functions, and intensity levels can vary from one product to another.
Before your first session, spend a minute looking through the user manual. It only takes a few moments, but knowing what each button does makes the whole experience feel much more natural.  

Understanding the Basic Controls

Most automatic male masturbators include a simple control panel with separate buttons for different functions.
Here's what you'll usually find:

• Power Button – Press and hold to turn the device on or off.
• Function Buttons – Switch between vibration, suction, thrusting, rotation, or other available features.
• Intensity Levels – Most devices start at the lowest level. Each press increases the intensity until it reaches the highest setting.
• Preset Modes – After the highest level, many products switch to built-in patterns that automatically change speed or rhythm.
• MAX Button (on some models) – Instantly activates the strongest available setting.

Don't worry about trying every mode during your first use. Exploring one function at a time usually makes it easier to discover which sensations you enjoy most.  

 

Get Familiar Before You Start

Before inserting the toy, it's worth turning it on for a few seconds to test the buttons.
Try switching between the different functions, adjust the intensity, and see how each mode responds. Doing this while the toy is still empty helps you avoid pressing the wrong button once you're focused on the experience.
It might seem like a small step, but many first-time users find it makes their first session much more relaxed.  

Part 3: How to Use an Automatic Male Masturbator

Now that you're familiar with the controls, it's time to enjoy your first session.
There's no "perfect" way to use an automatic male masturbator. Everyone has different preferences, and finding what feels best often takes a little experimentation.
The following steps provide a comfortable starting point for most beginners.  

Step 1: Fully Charge the Device

Before your first use, make sure your automatic male masturbator is fully charged.
Running out of battery halfway through your session can interrupt the experience and reduce the performance of features like suction or vibration.
If your model includes a heating function, fully charging it also helps the heating system work more consistently.

Step 2: Choose a Comfortable Environment

A relaxed environment can make a bigger difference than many people expect.
Choose a private place where you won't be interrupted, and keep everything you'll need within reach, including your lubricant, towel, and the masturbator itself.
When you're comfortable and not rushing, it's much easier to relax and enjoy the experience. 

Step 3: Apply Plenty of Lubricant

One of the biggest mistakes beginners make is using too little lubricant.
Apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant inside the sleeve and on your penis before insertion.
Good lubrication helps reduce friction, making insertion smoother and the overall experience much more comfortable.
Avoid oil-based lubricants unless your product specifically recommends them, as they may damage soft sleeve materials over time. 

Step 4: Start with a Partial Erection

You don't need to be fully erect before inserting your penis.
Many users find that a partial erection actually makes insertion easier, especially when using a tighter sleeve.
Once you're comfortably inside, the stimulation from the male masturbator will usually help you become fully erect naturally.  

Step 5: Insert Slowly and Find a Comfortable Position

Gently insert your penis into the sleeve and adjust the depth until it feels comfortable.
There's no need to push the toy firmly against your body. In fact, leaving a little room often allows the internal textures and automatic movements to work more naturally.
You can also experiment with slightly different angles or hold positions. Even small adjustments may noticeably change the sensation.  

Step 6: Start with the Lowest Intensity

Resist the temptation to press the MAX button right away.
Instead, begin with the lowest setting and give yourself a minute or two to adjust.
Your body needs a little time to get used to a new type of stimulation, especially if it's your first time using an automatic male masturbator.
Many experienced users actually prefer building intensity gradually rather than starting at the highest level.  

Step 7: Explore Different Modes

Once you're comfortable, start exploring the different functions.
Try changing the vibration pattern, switching to suction, or testing different thrusting speeds if your model offers them.
There's no "best" setting that works for everyone. The goal is simply to discover which combinations feel most enjoyable for you.
Don't feel like you have to try every feature during one session. You can always explore something new next time.  

Step 8: Turn the Device Off When You're Finished

After ejaculation, press and hold the power button to switch the device off before removing it.
Doing so prevents unnecessary stimulation and makes it easier to clean the toy afterward.
Take your time, remove the sleeve comfortably, and finish your normal personal hygiene routine before moving on to cleaning the device.  

If Your Toy Has a Heating Function

If your automatic male masturbator includes a heating feature, switch it on a few minutes before you begin.
Allowing the sleeve to warm up first creates a more comfortable, natural-feeling experience than turning the heat on after you've already started.
Remember that warmth is meant to enhance comfort, not become the main source of stimulation. Starting with a moderate temperature is usually the most enjoyable choice.  

Quick Reminder

If your first session isn't exactly what you expected, don't worry—that's completely normal.
Like any new product, an automatic male masturbator often feels better once you've learned which settings, angles, and rhythms suit your body. Most people become much more comfortable after just a few sessions.  

Part 4: Cleaning and Maintenance

Cleaning your male masturbator after every use is one of the easiest ways to keep it hygienic and performing at its best.
It only takes a few minutes, but regular cleaning helps remove lubricant and bodily fluids, prevents unwanted odors, and keeps the sleeve feeling soft and comfortable over time. If you've invested in a quality automatic male masturbator, proper care can also help extend its lifespan.  

Step 1: Remove the Sleeve Carefully

After your session, remove the inner sleeve from the outer case.
If your toy includes electronic connections or removable components, disconnect them gently according to the user manual. Avoid pulling on wires or forcing any parts apart, as this may cause unnecessary damage.  

Step 2: Wash the Sleeve Thoroughly

Rinse the sleeve under warm running water.
Gently open the entrance so water can flow through the internal tunnel and remove any remaining lubricant or residue.
For a deeper clean, use a toy cleaner that's designed for intimate products. These cleaners are made to clean the material without affecting its softness or durability.
Avoid turning the sleeve completely inside out unless the manufacturer specifically recommends it. Stretching the material too far may shorten its lifespan.  

Step 3: Dry It Completely

Shake off any excess water first.
Use a soft, lint-free towel to dry the outside, then carefully absorb the moisture inside the sleeve with a clean towel or a sleeve drying rod if you have one.
This step is worth taking your time with. Storing a damp sleeve can encourage bacteria or mold to develop, which may affect both hygiene and the material itself.

Step 4: Let It Air Dry

Place the sleeve in a clean, well-ventilated area until it's completely dry.
Avoid direct sunlight, heaters, or hair dryers, as excessive heat may damage soft TPE or silicone materials.
A little patience here helps keep the sleeve feeling soft and comfortable for much longer. 

Step 5: Clean the Exterior

If you're using an automatic male masturbator, never place the entire device under running water unless it's specifically designed to be fully waterproof.
Instead, wipe the outer shell with a soft, damp cloth, then dry it with a clean towel.
Keeping moisture away from the motor and charging port helps protect the electronics and ensures reliable performance over time.

Step 6: Store It Properly

Once everything is completely dry, reassemble the toy and place it in a clean storage bag or case.
Store it somewhere cool, dry, and away from direct sunlight or excessive humidity.
Proper storage helps keep dust away from the sleeve and protects the material between uses.
A few extra minutes of care today can help your male masturbator stay in great condition for many sessions to come.  

Final Thoughts

Learning how to use a male masturbator doesn't have to be complicated.
If your first experience feels a little different than you expected, that's perfectly normal. Like any new product, it often takes a little time to discover the settings, positions, and rhythm that feel right for you.
Start slowly, use plenty of water-based lubricant, keep your toy clean, and don't be afraid to experiment over a few sessions. Most users find that the experience becomes more natural and enjoyable as they become familiar with their automatic male masturbator.
At Bestvibe, we're committed to helping you get the most from every experience. Whether you're choosing your first toy or looking for tips to care for it properly, you'll find more beginner-friendly guides and practical advice throughout our Learning Center.  

FAQ

Do I need lubricant when using a male masturbator?

In most cases, yes. A water-based lubricant helps reduce friction, making the experience smoother and more comfortable while also protecting the sleeve material. Unless your product specifically states otherwise, water-based lubricant is the safest choice.  

Can I start with the highest vibration or suction setting?

You can, but it's usually not recommended for beginners.
Starting at a lower intensity gives your body time to adjust and often leads to a more comfortable experience. Once you're familiar with the sensations, you can gradually explore stronger settings.  

How often should I clean my male masturbator?

Clean your male masturbator after every use.
Regular cleaning helps maintain hygiene, prevents odor buildup, and keeps the sleeve in good condition for longer.  

Can I wash an automatic male masturbator with water?

The removable sleeve can usually be washed with warm water and a toy cleaner.
However, unless the product is specifically rated as fully waterproof, avoid submerging the electronic outer case in water. Wipe it clean with a damp cloth instead.  

How should I store my masturbator?

After cleaning, make sure every part is completely dry before storing it.
Keep your male masturbator in a clean storage bag or case, away from dust, direct sunlight, and excessive humidity. Proper storage helps protect both the sleeve material and the device itself.